Questions for a date night

So I'm a clean freak, and I love to organize, too. There is probably a little too much joy to be found when I can open a cabinet and find something to go through. I found a stack of magazine articles that I've had for awhile, and decided that since it had been a few years since reading them, I'd go through them, throw away some, and actually put some to use. Recipes, child raising tips, etc. I had pulled one from a marriage magazine that was written by Gary and Barb Rosberg. Great speakers/authors - we went to a marriage conference early on that they were at. Anyway, they give a series of progressively challenging questions to ask your spouse. So, I thought I'd pass a few on.

Level One
Tell me about the best vacation you have ever had.
When do you feel most glad that you married me?
What's the best compliment I could give you?
What one question do you want God to answer?
What really gets on your nerves?

Level Two
Do you feel that I spend enough of my free time with you? What things cut into our time together?
What do you enjoy most about your life? What would you like to change?
Describe two of your favorite memories of things we've done together.
Do you think you spend most of your time doing what you're well suited to do? If not, what needs to change? What would you most enjoy doing on a daily basis?
What helps you grow closer to Christ? What interferes with that process?
How well did your parents communicate?
Do I say "I love you" enough?

Level Three
Describe some dream accomplishments for yourself at ages 40, 60, 80.
Do you eer feel that I'm critical of you? How can I avoid that?
What one thing that I do for you makes you feel truly loved?
What are you learning in your times alone with God?
What do you think it means to be "called" by God to do something? Have you ever felt that calling?
At what times do you feel overwhelmed? What can I do to help?
Do I ever give you the silent treatment?
When we have an argument, does it seem as though I'm really listening to what you say? Or am I more interested in what I have to say?
Do you ever sense that I put conditions on my love for you? If so, what are the conditions you feel I place on you?

Level Four
Describe three ways we can enjoy each other more.
In what ways do you look forward to growing old together?
How can I be a better friend to you?
When you try something and fail,how should I respond?
What give you the motivation to get up in the morning?
In what areas of your life do you feel most insecure? What can I do to encourage you?
What can I do to help you bring out your natural talents and abilities?
Are you satisfied with the time we spend together reading the Bible and praying? What can we do together to meet each other's needs in this area?
Do you ever have doubts about God's character? About the Bible? How do those doubts affect you?
How are we doing in terms of resolving our conflicts? What can we do better?
What do you think "marital intimacy" means?
In what three ways can I be a better listener?
When are times when you especially need my love?
Is there any emotional baggage we've brought into this marriage that needs to be unpacked? Would that require professional help, or can we handle it ourselves? In what ways can I help in this process?

Level Five
What do you think prevents couples from becoming (or staying) best friends?
Do you trust me? If not, why not? What can I do to help you trust me more?
How can we affair-proof our marriage?
Is there anything about life in general or our current circumstances that discourages or disappoints you? What can I do to help turn that around?
What are some ways I can help you reach your full potential?
In what ways am I encouraging you in your spiritual walk with God? What else could I do?
How can we improve our prayer life together? Individually?
Do you think we're honoring God in the way we spend, give, and save our money? How could we do better?
What things can we do to help our children grow in their faith?
Do you ever feel I'm more "at one" with my job, the kids, or a hobby than I am with you? What makes you feel this way? How can I be more "at one" with you?
Have I ever broken your heart? If so, when? How could I have handled that situation differently? What can I do to heal that situation?

All the questions were from their book "40 Unforgettable Dates with Your Mate"

If you don't have a few hours to spend w/your hubby to work through all those questions, we have three questions that were given to us from another great couple and amazing example of marriage - Paul and Virginia Friesen. Each year, they go through these questions as a "check up" with each other. Scott and I spent a weekend before Rachel was born at a bed and breakfast, and answered them over dinner. It was a real, refreshing, honest conversation..... here's the questions...

1. Looking back over the past year, what have been our strengths? What do we feel has contributed positive growth to our marriage?

2. What areas have been neglected? Do we feel we're in a better place relationally now than we were a year ago? Not as good? Why or why not?

3. Looking ahead, what goals do we want to set which will increase the vitality and oneness of our marriage?